The Mommy Review

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Let me begin by congratulating you. Being a mom is a hard, often thankless job, and you’re doing great! The role of mother is one of the most important responsibilities a woman can have, and that’s why I encourage your to do a Mommy Review. Similar to an Annual Performance Review one might receive from an employer, the Mommy Review is an honest self-assessment to document achievements, identify challenges, figure out what’s working well and what needs to change. It’s an opportunity to evaluate and hold ourselves accountable in a positive manner. It’s meant to be an encouragement and help you determine how to improve your quality of “mom life” so steer clear of putting yourself down or getting discouraged. Below, I’ve listed ten areas for review with several questions to drill down further into the topic. These questions are mere suggestions so please add your own to personalize your review. Once you’ve completed the evaluation, I hope you’re able to truly see how well you’re doing as a mother! The results are a useful tool for creating goals and implementing positive changes. I hope you’ll take some time to reflect and complete this review to help you along your motherhood journey.

HIGHS & LOWS

  • What are the top three things I enjoy about being a mom?
  • What are the top three challenges I face in motherhood?
  • What am I most proud of in my role?
  • What is my biggest struggle?

SPOUSE

  • How is our overall relationship?
  • Are we taking time to connect?
  • Am I happy with the direction our marriage is heading?
  • Are we communicating effectively?
  • What are we doing/should we do to feed our marriage?

ROUTINE

  • Am I pleased with our daily routine?
  • Am I a slave to the schedule or do I go with the flow?
  • Does my routine bring comfort or stress to me/my family?

SELF IMAGE

  • How do I view myself?
  • What do I like/dislike about myself?
  • How am I doing as a mom?
  • Am I too critical of myself?
  • How can I love myself more?

PERSONAL CARE

  • Am I taking care of myself?
  • Am I getting enough “me time”?
  • When I do, am I spending it in a way that refuels me?
  • What types of things recharge me?
  • What sucks the life out of me?

HOUSEHOLD DUTIES

  • Am I keeping my head above water with chores?
  • How can I simplify these responsibilities?
  • Am I satisfied with how housework is dispersed among family members?
  • Do I have a routine or method to how I approach my at-home responsibilities?

SLEEP

  • Am I getting enough?
  • How can I get more?
  • What can I do to improve my sleep quality?

ATTITUDE

  • Does my attitude reflect the type of mother I want to be?
  • How is my attitude toward my spouse/children?
  • How does my attitude affect me/my family throughout the day?
  • Do I see my responsibilities as a mother from a positive or negative perspective?

SOCIAL LIFE

  • Am I satisfied with my social life?
  • Who do I want to spend more time with and how can I make that happen?
  • Do I make regularly spending time with others a priority?
  • Am I truly the same person my social media accounts say I am?
  • Do I spend too much time on devices rather than connecting with others face to face?

FAMILY EVALUATION (tip: request family members’ feedback)

  • How do my spouse/children view me as a mother?
  • As a family, are we satisfied with how we do life?
  • Do we have traditions or rituals that encourage family bonding?
  • How can we improve our family life?
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Emily
Emily Bice grew up in a small, Ohio farming community west of Columbus. It wasn't until she met her college sweetheart and future husband that her mind was opened to living elsewhere. They say love makes you do crazy things which lead Emily and her Texan husband to living in Central America for two years. After much adventure and traveling, she ended up back in Columbus where the real adventure began: motherhood. She is the mom of two young boys and an infant daughter and wife to the ultimate man's man. She's living her dream as a stay at home mom but will be the first to admit that she is far from having it all figured out. Her hardest parenting moments are typically around nap time and bedtime and after particularly rough episodes she can be found online shopping. In a former chapter of life, Emily worked in non-profit raising funds and awareness for important causes. Today, she spends her time playing and snuggling with her three children, traveling to and from her husband's lacrosse company's events and socializing with friends and family. When she has any free time, she usually wastes it trying to figure out what to do.

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    • Thank you! Taking time to stop and reflect often shows that we are doing way better than we think! 🙂 It also gives a boost to move forward positively! Best wishes!

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